I’ve had people telling me how they’ve sought my help for something but I refused to help them while I help other people who reach out to me with the same thing they sought help for.
Usually, my initial response to such people is that I owe them nothing and they owe me nothing. And I am unapologetic whenever I say that. However, this article is not about that, but it is about how you, the reader, can get whatever you want from anyone, effortlessly.
There is no doubt about the fact that no one is created to live by himself. We all need each other to survive. This is an indisputable fact. However, there is always a way to go about getting people to help you out with something.
The sincere truth is this: the fact that we all need each other to survive does not mean people owe us anything. That you’re not created to live this world by yourself does not mean anyone owes you anything. The earlier you let this important truth sink into your heart, the better for you.
In this article, I will be sharing a great idea with you. The idea or strategy I will be sharing with you here is tried and tested; if you make use of it pretty well, you will be able to get anything from anyone, at least most of the time if not all the time.
As a matter of fact, if you practically execute the strategy I will be sharing with you in this article, people will go all the way to give you what you want most of the time you reach out to them. This is because this strategy is tested and proven.
The most selfish letter in the universe is the letter “I”. The letter “I” stands for expectations — a person’s expectations. Read this carefully: when your life revolves around your expectations (around the letter I), you will never go far in life; you will be terribly limited and no one wants to associate with those who are displaying their limitations.
The world is not existing for people to fulfil your expectations! That is not what this world is about. So, when you live a life where all you say to yourself is; “I want this, I want that”; I want to do this, I want to do that,” then you are terribly limiting yourself and it will be hard for anyone to meet your expectations. I repeat, no one wants to associate with people who gallivant about with their limitations.
Until you come to the point where you realize that this world is not existing for people to fulfil your expectations, you will hardly get help from those you sincerely need help from. There is something that automatically repels people when you reach out to them in such a way that you want to get something out of them. It’s a psychological thing that no one can really explain.
Now, what is the strategy to use when you need help from people? How do you go about seeking people’s help? The answer to these questions is very simple: seek ways to add value to thier lives. Don’t just go to people telling them to fulfil your expectations, but go to them seeking ways whereby you can be of benefits to them.
I once helped a lady in building her online enterprise. Why did I work with her? It was because she brought value to the table. Now, I said “I helped her” because I didn’t charge her the normal fee I do charge my other clients. Despite the fact that she wasn’t really capable of paying my actual fee, she paid the fee I charged her fully.
She didn’t just reach out to me, but she was also ready to do something even though she was seeking help. This is the way to go about seeking help from people. Be ready to bring something to the table. Be ready to show people that you have something value to offer, too.
Now, I am not saying you must offer people money. No. Most of the time, money is even the last thing people need from you when you need their help. In fact, what those whom you are seeking help from are watching out for is the value you are ready to add to their lives. It can be in money or in other form, but it is just all about value.
Do you know that when you share the post of those you admire online, you are invariably adding value to their lives? Yes! When you share their quotes, pay for their class, buy their books, invite people for their trainings, you are definitely adding value to them. Now, let me ask you, if you reach out to such people for help, won’t they be willing to help?
See, when you reach out to people that you just want to receive from them without adding no value to their lives in return, you will most likely get a “No” from them or they won’t even reply you. It is not because these certain people are proud, it is just because they value their time. They understand that if they say “Yes” to you, then they will automatically be saying “No” to several other things. So, it is now left to you to prove to them that you deserve their time, attention and dedication.
Understand that this life is not about “I, me, or you” but it is about, “Us and we.” Until your life revolves around this important truth, you may remain grounded for life. Have a Win/Win mindset. Think about how you can add value to those doing the things you admire. That is the easiest way to get them to help you.
Sometime ago, I gave someone a job which kept her awake till midnight and I never paid a dime. How was I able to achieve that? It’s through value! If I never added value to the life of that person, she wouldn’t have stayed up at night to do a job she wouldn’t get paid for. Do you see why I say this strategy is tested and proven?
Nowadays, I get request from people in Nigeria and outside Nigeria asking me if I can be their mentor. I don’t give consent to most of these requests and this is not because I am proud. If it were the Emmanuel of years ago, I would have jumped up and say, “Yes, I will be your mentor.” But not the Emmanuel of today. I now understand what it takes to be a mentor.
One of the reasons why most people get their requests denied is because they are not proposing any value in return. This is an information age and the truth is that anyone in the world can provide value, even a pupil. So, what value are you willing to offer?
If you don’t know how to add value to those people you are seeking help from, stay around them closely. Watch all they are doing. If you get the chance, ask them questions that will give you the idea of how you can add value to them. Trust me, if you approach them in the way that you want to add value to them (even though in real sense you need their help too) they will hardly turn you down. This is my one million dollar advice.
I hope you got value from this article? If yes, can you please share with your friends so that they can also benefit from this? Thank you.
Remember to be the best version of yourself always!
I’m Emmanuel (EGA), The Exceptional Being.
